5 types of people who can ruin your life : identifying and dealing with narcissists, sociopaths, and other high-conflict personalities

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5 types of people who can ruin your life : identifying and dealing with narcissists, sociopaths, and other high-conflict personalities

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Title:

5 types of people who can ruin your life : identifying and dealing with narcissists, sociopaths, and other high-conflict personalities

Other title(s):

Five types of people who can ruin your life

Author:

Eddy, William A. author

ISBN:

9780143131366

Publication:

New York, New York : TarcherPerigee, [2018]

Physical Description:

197 pages ; 21 cm

General Note:

"A Tarcher Perigee Book."

Contents:

Why you need this knowledge now -- Warning signs and the 90 percent rule -- Don't become a target of blame -- The I'm superior, you're nothing type -- The love you, hate you type -- The cruel, con artist type -- The highly suspicious type -- The dramatic, accusatory type -- Dealing with negative advocates (who may also attack you) -- Getting help from others (who may not understand) -- The HCP theory -- Self-awareness.

Summary:

A guide to recognizing the warning signs of five high conflict personalities draws on expert advice and real-life anecdotes to avoid, manage, and break free from such relationships. --Publisher.

Subject(s):

Interpersonal conflict.

Personality disorders.

Conflict management.

Genre:

Self-help publications.

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Some difficult people aren't just hard to deal with-they're dangerous.

Do you know someone whose moods swing wildly? Do they act unreasonably suspicious or antagonistic? Do they blame others for their own problems?

When a high-conflict person has one of five common personality disorders-borderline, narcissistic, paranoid, antisocial, or histrionic-they can lash out in risky extremes of emotion and aggression. And once an HCP decides to target you, they're hard to shake.

But there are ways to protect yourself. Using empathy-driven conflict management techniques, Bill Eddy, a lawyer and therapist with extensive mediation experience, will teach you to-

- Spot warning signs of the five high-conflict personalities in others and in yourself.
- Manage relationships with HCPs at work and in your private life.
- Safely avoid or end dangerous and stressful interactions with HCPs.

Filled with expert advice and real-life anecdotes, 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life is an essential guide to helping you escape negative relationships, build healthy connections, and safeguard your reputation and personal life in the process. And if you have a high-conflict personality, this book will help you help yourself.

Author Notes

Bill Eddy is the cofounder and president of the High Conflict Institute. Eddy is a certified family law specialist and senior family mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego. He is also a licensed clinical social worker and part-time faculty at the Pepperdine University School of Law.

Reviews (1)

Publisher's Weekly Review

In this thought-provoking but overextended guide to identifying and avoiding conflict-prone people, Eddy (coauthor of Splitting), a social worker, discusses clinically recognized personality disorders. Though Eddy cites the DSM-V as suggesting that 15% of all people have such a disorder, his book only concerns the 10% of people with "high-conflict" personalities (HCPs.) Eddy states that his mission is to protect the reader from becoming such a person's fixation, or "target of blame." Eddy focuses on five personality disorders: borderline, narcissistic, paranoid, antisocial, and histrionic. At times, the book can feel a bit like a safari guide, with discussions of "spotting" each type. Eddy's examples tend to the extreme: Ted Bundy and Bernie Madoff are used as representatives of antisocial personality disorder and "terrorist leaders" in general as embodiments of narcissistic personality disorder. Eddy's repetitive rhetoric about how those with high-conflict personality types "ruin lives" will likely strike mental-health advocates as overly stigmatizing, though he does urge readers to exercise compassion as well as caution. Though the subject isn't without interest, it seems better suited to an article than a full-length book. (Feb.) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved.

Chapter 1 Why You Need This Knowledge Now	p. 1
Chapter 2 Warning Signs and the 90 Percent Rule	p. 12
Chapter 3 Don't Become a Target of Blame	p. 24
Chapter 4 The I'm Superior, You're Nothing Type	p. 34
Chapter 5 The Love You, Hate You Type	p. 53
Chapter 6 The Cruel, Con Artist Type	p. 72
Chapter 7 The Highly Suspicious Type	p. 95
Chapter 8 The Dramatic, Accusatory Type	p. 115
Chapter 9 Dealing with Negative Advocates (Who May Also Attack You)	p. 135
Chapter 10 Getting Help from Others (Who May Not Understand)	p. 151
Chapter 11 The HCP Theory	p. 165
Chapter 12 Self-Awareness	p. 178
Appendix	p. 187
Acknowkdgments	p. 191
Notes	p. 193

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